What I’ve learned from former feminists who no longer call themselves feminists:
The word ‘feminist’ is a proud label for some women, for others it’s a word that sounds like nails scratching across a chalk board, and for some it may have a neutral effect.
Feminism has witnessed many changes in its lifespan but has primarily focused around the idea of female empowerment, women’s rights and sex/gender equality.
It may be surprising to some people that there are modern women who have rejected the ‘feminist’ label, even though they are career focused individuals who believe in liberty, equal opportunity and personal responsibility.
Why have these women rejected the ‘Feminist’ label?
The word ‘Feminism’ in itself may have been a poor word choice, from the beginning, to represent a movement that is based on establishing equality.
For example, if someone touted that they were a ‘whiteist’ but claimed they believed in racial equality… would you believe them? Probably not.
The word ‘Feminism’ is poised, from its origin, to be unbalanced; It overemphasizes and is reactionary. This may have been a deliberate, and understandable, intention in the early 20th Century, but in more egalitarian times the word has become less necessary and sometimes embarrassing for certain women.
While these women may pay homage to their predecessors who fought for their future right to vote, own property, work and live how they so desire, they feel the movement has dwindled and lost its focus and usefulness.
The feminist movement derailed when it was hijacked by those who no longer wanted to establish an equilibrium between the sexes but rather usurp it as a method of revenge against men and the ‘patriarchy’.
There are some women who call themselves feminists that truly do just want liberation and equality, they latch on to the word because it was a movement that resulted in a lot of positive political, economic and social change…
…But it may be time to retire the word, according to many former feminists.
It may be time to simply say it’s no longer necessary to wear that label. It may be time when we can just say we are people who believe in freedom and individual rights. It may be time to stop the bickering between the sexes, the ‘us’ vs ‘them’ scenario that is played over and over with no beneficial outcome.
Sexism, sexual assault, injustice etc. are all things we have to deal with as a society, but wearing a ‘feminist’ label on your sleeve ready to ‘smash the patriarchy’ and blame all men for everything isn’t the way to go about it.
It’s time to retire the ‘Feminist’ label and join civilized, adult society.